This concept lead to a hypothetical situation, if all of us cousin were gathered together for dinner. Probably not the same place, obviously there's no way we'll get the resturant roped off because we arrived (well unless you found enough family to actually book out the entire restruant - lol).
The entire family is gathered at the table. We decided all to learn ASL (Sign Language) for family on the other side of the table that can't hear the conversation that has started on one end. It was pointless practising the art of chinese whispers because we would of figured out that the question that we'd asked orignally had somehow changed after passing through six people.
So this is my thought. What if we all decided to write two questions each. It could be directed to the entire family or one individual - What would your question be? It would be a very interesting topic of conversation and the best part is that you wouldn't have time to construct an intelligent answer. It would be bluntly honest and would reveal more of your character to the family.
I'm just getting to know Ben really well. It's weird because I've known Ben all my life - But I didn't really KNOW him. For example how he interacts with others, what annoys him, what he enjoys etc. I would honestly say I got to know Bec before I did my own cousin. Then there's family that I automatically fuse with and feel I've KNOWN them all my life. That would have to be Deb (and Glo too, to an extent - we'll I know what she likes and dislikes. Glo loves Techology with a CAPITAL "T". I'm still trying to wrap my head around it. Boi is more in sync with her in that department). Deb we exchanged a few emails two years ago and then I meet her in the flesh in July of 2008. When I walked into our cousin George's apartment and Deb jumps up with opens arms with a huge smile on her face and says to me; "Cousin!!!". It just felt like I only saw her yesterday. It's like I didn't wait twenty-one years to meet her face to face.
I'm not saying that I didn't get along with Ben. It just painted a clearer picture that each one of us are different - that depending on our upbringing and how often we saw each other. I took for granted my cousins in New Castle. I saw them every school holidays when I was growing up. But as adults now - a whole new light has dawned. Ben is the most loving, most caring cousin and I've even started to call him my brother now. His just there for me. It's funny when I look at it now because I'm like five years his senior - but I'm so comfortable to call him when something is bothering me. I love that. His just a great listener and I've told you this before Ben - but you remind me so much of my dad (and I absolutely LOVE that about you!! :). "Bene qui latuit, bene vixit" latin for One who lives well, lives unnoticed. (This latin phrase refers to how proud I am of you!!!)
I don't want to leave anyone out. Each one of my cousin's have a quality about them that I admire or aspire to. Miya - his just one of those guys that pushed for family time. His a natural born leader and encourager - "Semper Fidelis" also known as Semper Fi latin word for Always Faithful. Seti - undying love and honor for the family. I see it when he helps out the family. Marven - lol is a great storyteller and knows the family connections pretty well. That when he talks about family and tells you stories. It's like you've met them before. He lives for the moment.
There's other cousins as well - that I'd love to have one on one time with, to find out what makes you - YOU. But for now I leave you with this....
Concordia res parvae crescent - Work together to accomplish more.
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